Reply To: What 50 Shadchanim Told Me

In the early 2000s, there was a list of over 100 shadchanim, maybe 200+.

I volunteered to update and correct that list,
by calling each shadchan individually,
and asking if they were still active, or not.
I spent several weeks doing that.

I also asked each shadchan questions, similar to these:

[1] What kind of singles do you normally help?

[2] What age range do you work with?

[3] When is the best time for singles to call you?

[4] Do you have more boys, or more girls, or both equally?

[5] Do you work with: Litvish? Chasidish? Modern Orthodox?
Sephardim? Baalei Teshuvah? Gairim? Russians? Divorced?

That list no longer exists because its author abandoned it many years ago.
The author of that list is disgusted by shadchanim, and refuses to call them.
No, I was *** NOT *** the author of that list!!!

Yes, I really did call 50 shadchanim.
(Actually, I called more than 100, but it no longer matters.)

Yes, I really did ask 50 shadchanim:
What are the biggest obstacles that ruin shidduchim?

Yes, 50 shadchanim told me the biggest problems are short boys and fat girls.

If anyone here doubts that what I said is true,
then I invite YOU to call 50 shadchanim,
and ask them all:
What are the biggest obstacles that ruin shidduchim?

This will take time, but you might actually learn something!
You probably won’t do it, because it is easier
to accuse and criticize, than it is to do something helpful.

When I volunteered to update and correct that list,
I did so LeShem Shamayim, to help my fellow Jews.

When I started this discussion, in this Coffee Room,
I also did it LeShem Shamayim, to help my fellow Jews.