“If you’re looking for an okay-man who will assuge you that your aveiros aren’t so bad and everyone else is doing it anyways, so don’t fret over it too much, you can get someone even less judgemental by seeking out a conservative or reform rabbi”
Or alternatively, you can share your concerns with R’ Yosef, or any of our other CR experts on womens’ issues who are know for their progressive views.
On a serious note, the OP sounds like she is mature well beyond a typical “young teen” and has an extraordinary sense of self-awareness lacking in much older bnos yisroel. Wherever you turn for advice and guidance, remember that ultimately you have to be comfortable in your own skin and don’t let others intimidate you into conforming with some abstract “norm”.