CS: “All my peers who strive to be “Chassidish” (within Lubavitch), guard their homes from any non Jewish influence. There is no TV, non Jewish books (at least for entertainment purposes), and of course would never watch movies under any circumstances.
Contrast this with a woman who grows up in a very frum home and community, but wasn’t blessed to learn and see the deeper side of Torah, it’s not hard to understand why she may find her pleasure and down time in non Jewish movies, music, books etc even if she’s dressed tznius to the hilt, and the impact this has on her home…”
And from the mods: “disclaimer: mamash motzei shem rah”
If at all possible, it’s even worse that motzi shem ra. It’s absolute total garbage! (Yes, I know that that makes it motzi shem ra, but it’s so off the planet that there must be an even better term for it.)
Why not contrast you and your peers with neshei chayil who do not learn and Torah sheb’al peh, and who put their efforts into having a Torah home and bringing up yirei Shomayim?
We all know – it has been discussed and never denied – that the tznius and mixing of genders in Crown Heights is far worse than in any other chareidi enclave. We all know that the number of children allowed unfettered use of internet and smartphones is far greater in Crown Heights that in any other chareidi enclave. Women putting the stress on learning gemoro and chassidus instead of looking after their children’s Yiddishkeit, is worse than counterproductive!
Now if you are part of the minority who doesn’t allow the above in your home, well done (!), and Hashem should help you continue in your efforts. But we are not having a personal debate about you versus us. It is about what goes on in Lubavich versus the proper chareidi world.