Reply To: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe

Just one more thought before i never see responses, I find the attitude of concern of דברי הבאי, to be a curious one. I suppose within Chabad, the attitude towards anything good(including the topic here- women’s learning) is more on the lines of

הבא לטהר מסעיין לו
מתוך שלא לשמה בא לשמה (אא״כ שלא לשמה ממש בשביל איזו פני׳ה כו׳)
הכל בחזקת כשרות

Etc etc. Along with a strong emphasis for personal responsibility to check with a mashpia/ Rav when in doubt. And my part of keeping my head cleared of non Jewish ideology/ philosophy, so I don’t mistake it for Torah.

Something interesting: I recently finished writing up bH a motivational Tznius farbrengen curriculum (80+pages bH), for a high school that commissioned it.

I had assumed that the male principal of the school, who was interested in upgrading the tznius program, would look it over, and it included the hashkofos I’ve learned and imbibed and also, I wanted to make sure to get it right because many girls will iyH be learning it.

However, it became clear that no one was planning on checking it, aside from the post sem leaders who were going to give it over.

I was very careful to write based on sources, and in fact, the leaders asked me to list exact sources so they could present them or look them up at will.

I was happy they asked and spent double the time annotating with sources- from Rashi, Rambam, Gemara, Mishna, Shulchan Aruch, Chassidus etc.

I asked a scholarly cousin to look it over, and my husband as well, but they weren’t interested in taking the time (if my husband was concerned, he would have been on top of it.)

There was one time I was going in a certain direction based on two contemporary speaker/ article, where my husband asked what I was looking up for, and then he shared something that helped me delete all that piece and start with a more positive approach. (Not women Maalos vs men, but rather only focus on the maalos of women.)

I also called a Rav once to check my hashkofa against a certain source that carried a different message.

And I know that the leaders will check with me if there’s anything they see that doesn’t seem right.

But that’s it. There’s alot of empowerment and trust within lubavitch in individuals. (That’s aside from the special attention the women as a community received from the Rebbe such as sichos just for women etc which is a different topic.)