CS: I think every community and individual have their areas that can use strengthening, and this is not unique to lubavitch. /em>
That’s like saying that an orthodox community could use strengthening in their Shmiras Shabbos because so many of them use their phones on Shabbos. A community like that is not orthodox! Tznius in Lubavich needs more than just “strengthening”. It is by ALL accounts – and I am including the small number of sane Lubavichers with whom I discuss this type of stuff – atrocious. And the reason – those card-carrying Lubavichers agree – is because the main thing is Mashiach and influencing others. Thereby turning a blind-eye to “our own”.
I have been to both kinds of homes. I haven’t seen bochurim/ girls at the same table, but have seen marriageable age at the same table separated by married couples. Could be these families are operating in guidance I don’t know about. I try to focus on my own decisions
You’re right for focusing on your own family. But stop defending the way others are because they “cherish” mitzvos and hiddur mitzvah in their own way. I could handle your posts more if you would come out clearly and say, “They are wrong! I wish they would behave in a more appropriate manner. Furthermore they are giving Lubavich a bad name.” But you can’t say that because everything is so rosey in Lubavich.