Reply To: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe

Arso,

“ …except in internet access for youth, the things bochurim talk about, tznius and the mixing of the genders. (You won’t convince me otherwise because I witness it firsthand numerous times each week. And I’m talking about sons of shluchim, not just BTs.)

Btw even with all your explaining of the how engaged couples act etc, it’s still well below the tznius level of other chatzeiros. Actually, that makes it sound just something not as “hiddur mitzvah” as us. I had better clarify. It’s called nevalah in other chatzeiros.”

It seems that by explaining the Lubavitch model, this, and perhaps other posts, will be answered.

Since the time of the Alter Rebbe, Chabad has been organized from the bottom up (if you know about tzadik beemunaso yichye vs. yechaye), as opposed to the other Chassidic courts.

Every individual and family is strongly encouraged to have a personal Rav and mashpia. Even the Rebbe is more of a helper figure than a community dictator.

Also, lubavitch isn’t into pressuring everyone to look and act the same. We recognize that people are born into different situations, and cannot necessarily be compared. The focus is that one moves upward.

For example: if a person became frum and works tremendously on himself, he cannot be compared to someone who also works tremendously on himself but was born and raised frum. So if the former doesn’t have the most aidel language at times, we don’t have to emphasize that aspect. And the children of this person can and should upgrade accordingly.

And let’s not kid ourselves- not every ffb home raises its children in the proper way in every area, and ultimately, we all have where to grow, and it’s our responsibility to tackle it with the same strength we expect those beneath us spiritually to…

My daughter recently pointed out someone that wasn’t dressed up to par. I told her that she’s right, but does she know this woman is a tremendous baalas Chessed? Why be a garbage collector?

TBC…