Reply To: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe

AAQ,
“ I am not sure are you addressing 3 yo or 18 yo kids, but why do you need to connect these 2 issues together and also address judging every person you meet? If you see someone doing chesed, discuss that act, you don’t need to either approve or discount everything that person did. Hope the kid sees enough positive examples at other times.”

Agreed. She isn’t doing Chessed because she isn’t tznius- her Chessed is an expression of her Neshama. Ironically, it’s actually the opposite in Yiddishkeit- the bad a Yid does is not the real him, it’s temporary, and gets washed off through teshuva or yissurim etc, but the mitzvos one does are eternal connections to Hashem and have everlasting effect.