“כל המסתכל באצבע קטנה של אשה, כאילו מסתכל במקום התורף(הערווה)” (תלמוד בבלי, מסכת ברכות דף כד
Point being that it sounds like you and other people feel that for example the שוק being exposed causes men to sin, which I don’t argue with, but even walking on the street between 100% tznius women, there is a נסיון of שמירת עינים.
The rambam writes in hilchos teshuvah that someone should not say “what’s so bad about staring at a women, did I get close to her, I didn’t do any avaira, etc.”
So a man has his responsibility to gaurd his eyes even not looking at a women’s face or finger, reb Moshe has a tshuvah that if a men can’t control himself he shouldn’t go to work, (he doesn’t write just to continue looking at women, and complain about it on the yeshiva world)
Also another point: the Arabs basically dress in a way that no man would look at them, yidden don’t do that even though if Jewish women would all dress that way men would have much less of a nisaon, christians also are careful with lusting after women and are much more leinyent than halacha.
So yiddishkeit lihavdil has halachos, it’s not just what you feel and make up.
Another point is that in alot of communitys chabad and I think litvaks too, shmiras enayim was not spoken about much in public. One of the reasons for this is and stated in Zohar and brought in likutai Torah, is that a person looks at women when he’s empty of a connection to hashem, so we focus on davening and that takes care of the issue. If a person is empty inside , you can have all the filters and live in kiryas yoel, you’ll still be doing aviros with lust
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