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  • #2276757
    sechel83
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    Arso. No orthodox rav who is aware of the comments you posted over here would accept your Sefer. Accepting a Sefer (especially when it’s recorded on video) is showing respect to the author,

    #2277012
    yankel berel
    Participant

    @arso
    I personally know many Orthodox Rabanim who would accept your sefer . After reading your comments on this thread.

    Sechel is suffering from cognitive dissonance

    According to sechel –
    “Done! נשתכחה תורת המתנגדים.”

    “No godol now is against habad” …. according to sechel.

    In sechels illusory world no godol is against habad , habad leader is alive now [give him hagba …], habad never claimed that their leader cannot die, and the moon is a banana ….

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    #2277026
    ARSo
    Participant

    yb: I personally know many Orthodox Rabanim who would accept your sefer . After reading your comments on this thread.

    Thanks for the compliment. I’ll make sure to send you an autographed complimentary copy.

    the moon is a banana

    A banana?! Don’t be ridiculous. Everyone knows it’s made out of green cheese.

    #2277115
    ☕️coffee addict
    Participant

    Everyone knows it’s made out of green cheese.

    There’s a democrat that thought it was mostly gasses

    #2277174
    CS
    Participant

    Yb,
    “ 1] DID A JEWISH COMMUNITY ANYTIME , ANYWHERE HOLD ATSAROT FOR KABALAT PNEI MASHIACH ?”

    Possibly not- the avoda throughout golus was focused on Avodas habirurim. Now this is our focus, as we’ve finished Avodas habirurim- hence the difference.

    “2] DID A JEWISH COMMUNITY ANYTIME , ANYWHERE USE THE MEANS OF MASS ADVERTISING AVAILAIBLE TO THEM IN THEIR CONTEXT TO PROMOTE AN INDIVIDUAL AS MASHIACH ?”

    Possibly. Rabbi Akiva promoted bar kochba. Shabtai tzvi was endorsed by many Rabbanim. How exactly they did so I don’t know since we don’t have media from then.

    “3] DID A JEWISH COMMUNITY ANYTIME , ANYWHERE IN AN ORGANIZED FASHION LOOK FOR CANDIDATES FOR MASHIACH AND SUBSEQUENTLY DECIDE ON THE WINNER ,BASED ON POPULAR ACCLAIM ?”

    No idea. Was Yinon shmo by his students, a way of promoting? And the other yeshivos as well? Or they all happened to promote the name of their Rebbi by coincidence? I don’t think it’s about a popularity contest btw. Rather, Moshiach belongs to all yidden so once his identity is revealed, we want to share how to bring about the full Geula by following his world view, with our fellow Jews. Many times the Moshiach campaign just means to educate people on what the era is about, and how to prepare, without focusing on a candidate.

    “4] DID A JEWISH COMMUNITY ANYTIME , ANYWHERE PUBLICLY STATE DURING MANY DECADES THAT THEY ARE NOT TRYING TO CROWN THEIR OWN LEADER AS MASHIACH – ONLY TO WHEN CONVENIENT CHANGE COURSE AND PUBLICLY DO THE EXACT OPPOSITE ?”

    There are still those who are living in the first half of the question… those who said it meant it at the time, and some still do.

    “4] DID A JEWISH COMMUNITY ANYTIME , ANYWHERE PUBLICLY STATE DURING MANY YEARS THAT THAT THEIR LEADER CAN NOT DIE AND THAT THIS IS ONE OF THE IKAREI EMUNA AND IMPOSSIBLE TO CHANGE AT ANY TIME IN THE FUTURE – ONLY TO WHEN CONVENIENT CHANGE COURSE AND PUBLICLY PROCLAIM THE EXACT OPPOSITE ?”

    Haven’t seen this anywhere- especially the way you worded it

    #2277175
    CS
    Participant

    Yb,

    “ CS is [mis]quoting tanya 32 .
    It says clearly in tanya 32 that apikorsim there is a mitsva to have tahlit sin’a against them .

    CS seems to argue against the tanya …”

    Yes he also defines an apikores The way I wrote- someone who was at your level in Torah and mitzvos, you already tried to bring them back by fulfilling the Mitzvah hocheach tochiach (according to the dinim – gently and privately at first, unless making a public chillul Hashem etc) and he refuses to return.

    I’ve also heard that the Frierdiker Rebbe said there’s no true apikorsim today- just people using ignorance of Hashem as an excuse for yetzer hara.

    #2277171
    CS
    Participant

    Ca,

    “ And therefore pasht nisht for a shlucha to be untzniusdik.”

    Agreed! And the vast majority are tzniusdik.

    “and should be ostracized”

    We don’t ostracize, we try to bring close with love and by serving as a personal example. If she wasn’t perfect with lashon hara, or used a peeler on shabbos, you’d say the same?

    “and non shluchos should be taught properly”

    Agreed! I had a tznius class in high school, I’ve written one for another school, and advocate for every Lubavitcher school to educate about tznius.

    “ (as opposed to how people in this thread has been saying crown heights is)”

    There’s many tznuos in Crown heights. I won’t make up percentages (there’s1000s of families there) but there’s both types. And when you take into account what Chabad encompasses and embraces (both those on their way in, those fully into it, those on a downward trend)- it makes sense.

    #2277222
    CS
    Participant

    Aaq

    “ Why is Lubavitch (one of) the only chassidus that doesn’t wear a gartel? Or a shtreimel?”

    The men wear a gartel by davening. Shtreimel was worn until the current Rebbe. It ended up helping others to be mekurav (we kept the beards etc)

    #2277211
    CS
    Participant

    Avira,


    CS – that’s what chasidus, or mussar, or drush,is supposed to do. And it does. But ifa person finds any other part of Torah “dry” afterwards, it’s showing a deficiency in the method which is being used to convey those parts of Torah, and in the unpreparedness of the recipient.”

    I specifically mentioned other types of hashkofa style motivation. I guess only one who tastes it will get what I mean?

    #2277215
    CS
    Participant

    Arso,

    “ CS: My point was that Rashi isn’t necessarily sticking his point to just the Sanhedrin.

    Rashi is explaining just the possuk, as he always does, and since the possuk is dealing only with the Sanhedrin, that is only what Rashi is referring to.”

    Point taken.

    “I know that chassidim – us included – use this statement in regards to our tzaddikim, but it is certainly not the simple pshat in the posuk.”

    So why is it taken that way? Would you know?

    CS: “I know it’sa Mitzvah for Goyim to believe in Hashem, and I’ve heard of a very respected person teaching Tanya to depressed celebrities (he asked them to start tznius clothing trends as a result.)”

    Arso “It’s a mitzvah for them, but not for us to teach them. And your ‘very respected person’ would not be respected by anyone who thinks straight and realises that you’re not allowed to teach Torah to goyim.”

    I had someone else last week actually, who has a maternal last name from the Marranos but no other proof (yet) of being Jewish.

    She was thirsting for some truth (brought up with the christian stuff and realized it doesn’t go with the Bible).

    I asked a local Rav- he said I could send her links to Chumash and rashi (which she specifically asked for), and Tanya.

    We are responsible for goyim too (as long as we don’t need to be moser Nefesh etc). That’s what our obligation of teaching the 7 mitzvos bnei noach is about. 1 of them is about belief in Hashem.

    “I wrote: “ You know you’re scraping the bottom of the barrel when you bring an anecdotal proof from a shikse!”

    And CS replied: Aderabe- even she saw it.

    There is definitely something very wrong with your hashkofos if you really mean that. I remember hearing from a Lubavicher many many years ago that if you’re not sure what to do, ask a misnaged and do the opposite. Now you’re bringing the opinion of a shikse and using it as a proof of the right hashkofo?! The opinion of a goy, regardless of how respectable and well-meaning they are, is WORTHLESS when it comes to deciding what is good in teaching or learning Torah. Can you get anyone to back you up in your view?”

    Look in my original post I said someone who is studying to be a giyores. She’s been on that path for a while. I wouldn’t call her a shikse- rather a potential giyores. And the fact she senses this, in addition to her commitment to this path so far- to me indicates a Jewish Neshama. (I’m sure you know about the nations who said yes about the Torah- are reborn throughout the generations with Jewish souls and then they convert. She also has a Jewish father which makes a difference as well.)

    But if you don’t like the point, that’s ok

    #2277220
    CS
    Participant

    Arso,

    “ In reply to my objecting to the LR saying that it doesn’t make sense that Mashiach hasn’t come yet, CS wrote: I believe I answered this already. Shlomo hamelech couldn’t understand para adumah…

    Please please please stop being medameh milsa lemilsa. I’ll be melamed zechus and say that as you do not have a background in Gemoro, you haven’t learned to be discerning in your comparisons.”

    Thanks for the generosity. I meant that it’s the same. The Rebbe never meant it doesn’t make sense period. But that it makes no sense to us, and possibly even according to the logic of Torah. Hence my comparison to the para adumah. Of course ultimately it does make sense, and we’ll see it by Geula. But it wasn’t making sense at the moment.

    “within lubavitch there’s always who to look up to and where to grow ad ain sof

    As there is in any community. But in other communities women who are machshil others are asked to fix themselves or leave. In Lubavich they become shluchim.

    disclaimer: they are asked to fix themselves, not always to leave. But most definitely not to teach.”

    In every community there are role models. The Mishne says we can learn from everyone. I meant that in lubavitch there is a systematic path of avoda one can take from the lowest point to an endless height with role models along the way. That’s what Chabad is about. I haven’t seen this elsewhere, maybe I’m limited to my demographic. And I haven’t lived within every type of community. I’ve just had my personal interactions with those who I’ve encountered.

    #2277221
    CS
    Participant

    Yb,

    “ So there is NO PROOF for anything more than sanhedrin .
    You agree and we agree .
    You cannot use this as proof .”

    Agreed

    #2277237

    CS, I drink coffee, but I did not ask why lubavitch is not wearing a shtreimel. My only question is why people care about what is on their head so much, and if they do – why do they start such modernishe ideas that our ancestors never wore.

    #2277248
    ☕️coffee addict
    Participant

    “Aaq

    “ Why is Lubavitch (one of) the only chassidus that doesn’t wear a gartel? Or a shtreimel?”

    The men wear a gartel by davening. Shtreimel was worn until the current Rebbe. It ended up helping others to be mekurav (we kept the beards etc)“

    Cs, I’m the one who asked it and I know lubavitchers that don’t wear a gartel during davening

    #2277254
    yankel berel
    Participant

    @CS
    “ 1] DID A JEWISH COMMUNITY ANYTIME , ANYWHERE HOLD ATSAROT FOR KABALAT PNEI MASHIACH ?”

    Possibly not- the avoda throughout golus was focused on Avodas habirurim. Now this is our focus, as we’ve finished Avodas habirurim- hence the difference.
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    CS agrees here there is no proof it was ever done. CS claims the avoda has changed.

    This is one of the beginnings of The Schism.

    The Schism between the main body of Klal Yisrael and a small minority of blind followers of the leader of habad hasidim. Who claimed , without any back up source, and for specific and obvious purposes, that the avoda changed.
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    #2277269
    yankel berel
    Participant

    @CS
    Thanks for engaging point by point .

    With all the sympathy for all other worthy activities you are engaged in , here you answers bring out the bankruptcy of neo habad theology.

    It is by now clear to any neutral bystander who is not steeped in the movement and thereby unblinkered by negi’ut, , that there are some major issues with habad theology and its acrobatics .

    Acrobatics performed to alternately fit a specific predetermined goal ,still fit with reality to a certain degree, and above all be marketable enough to convince unsuspecting and naive yehudim to blindly follow their messiah.
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    #2277265
    yankel berel
    Participant

    2] DID A JEWISH COMMUNITY ANYTIME , ANYWHERE USE THE MEANS OF MASS ADVERTISING AVAILAIBLE TO THEM IN THEIR CONTEXT TO PROMOTE AN INDIVIDUAL AS MASHIACH ?”

    Possibly. Rabbi Akiva promoted bar kochba. Shabtai tzvi was endorsed by many Rabbanim. How exactly they did so I don’t know since we don’t have media from then.
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    CS agrees -again- that there is no proof whatsoever .

    It is ‘possible’. That is the furthest she can go.

    R’Akiva said – I thought Bar Kochba was Mashiach . He PROMOTED bar kochba ???
    If CS is honest , she will agree that there is NO source whatsoever of anyone PROMOTING bar kochba.

    It seems more like Bar Kochba’s ACHIEVEMENTS ‘promoted’ b’k . Without any outside ‘promotion’ necessary. Ma’aseha Yekarvuha ….
    Which, incidentally happened to the reason for R’A ‘s assumption ….

    It seems that ,in an inverse sense , all the way through the ages, people realized that the more ‘outside promotion’ is needed , the more that shows that the helek hama’asim is lacking.

    Thats why ‘promotion’ is historically totally absent and lacking in Jewish Life.

    Which leaves us as the only other precedent, the other False , Failed and despised ‘messiah’.

    It’s quite simple , Shabtai tsvi , Shem Resha’im Yirkav, had a devoted army of sincere , blindly devoted followers who fell prey to the charisma of their leader , who ‘promoted’ their leaders supernatural feats , far and wide, as proof of his messiahship.

    Woe to the cause which draws its legitimacy and ways of operation from that exposed fraudster and his mass movement of lies and deceit …..
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    #2277266
    yankel berel
    Participant

    @CS
    DID A JEWISH COMMUNITY ANYTIME , ANYWHERE IN AN ORGANIZED FASHION LOOK FOR CANDIDATES FOR MASHIACH AND SUBSEQUENTLY DECIDE ON THE WINNER ,BASED ON POPULAR ACCLAIM ?”

    No idea. Was Yinon shmo by his students, a way of promoting? And the other yeshivos as well? Or they all happened to promote the name of their Rebbi by coincidence? I don’t think it’s about a popularity contest btw. Rather, Moshiach belongs to all yidden so once his identity is revealed, we want to share how to bring about the full Geula by following his world view, with our fellow Jews. Many times the Moshiach campaign just means to educate people on what the era is about, and how to prepare, without focusing on a candidate.
    ———————–
    1] WITHOUT FOCUSING ON A CANDIDATE…. [CS]
    Quite innocent.

    The lack of focus on a candidate [in those instances] . Is that because of the name of the candidate is irrelevant ? Or , rather is that merely a preparation as a more smooth way of inserting the name of THE candidate in a later stage ??

    Which one of those two options is closer to the truth ??

    2] It is clear that this gemara which is discussing the names of mashiach is doing so in a theoretical manner .
    IF min hahaim . IF min hameitim etc.

    Not in a PRACTICAL way as R’A and bar kochba.
    Or in Shabatai Tsvi [shr’y]
    Or in neo habad end 20th Century.

    There is NO MENTION of ‘promotion’ of any kind whatsoever. Just a note of a discussion in the Bet HaMedrash.
    Outside of the Bet HaMedrash there was no knowledge of this at all.
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    #2277268
    yankel berel
    Participant

    @CS
    5] DID A JEWISH COMMUNITY ANYTIME , ANYWHERE PUBLICLY STATE DURING MANY YEARS THAT THAT THEIR LEADER CAN NOT DIE AND THAT THIS IS ONE OF THE IKAREI EMUNA AND IMPOSSIBLE TO CHANGE AT ANY TIME IN THE FUTURE – ONLY TO WHEN CONVENIENT CHANGE COURSE AND PUBLICLY PROCLAIM THE EXACT OPPOSITE ?”

    Haven’t seen this anywhere- especially the way you worded it
    ========================
    Thanks for that.
    Suppose you have not seen or heard about it – because it never happened before in any other community in Jewish History.

    The wording is an exact reflection of the facts on the ground. As witnessed by me.
    And anyone else who bothered at the time to follow all the details as they were unfolding.
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    #2277267
    yankel berel
    Participant

    @CS
    4] DID A JEWISH COMMUNITY ANYTIME , ANYWHERE PUBLICLY STATE DURING MANY DECADES THAT THEY ARE NOT TRYING TO CROWN THEIR OWN LEADER AS MASHIACH – ONLY TO WHEN CONVENIENT CHANGE COURSE AND PUBLICLY DO THE EXACT OPPOSITE ?”

    There are still those who are living in the first half of the question… those who said it meant it at the time, and some still do.
    ———————————–
    The question was ON HABAD AS A MOVEMENT , not on specific individuals . The official spokesmen , including the Leader of the movement.

    THEY conveyed the message that anyone who claims that habad is trying to crown their own leader is wrong , motsi shem ra and a ‘hater’ .

    And its those very same people who conveniently ‘forgot’ all about that , and subsequently joined and/or initiated the mass mashiach meshigaas .

    That was the question . Ignoring or sidestepping it , is disingenuous and not a sign of honesty.

    #2277339
    ARSo
    Participant

    CS, you asked how we can use the concept of “even if he tells you right is left etc.” in regards to our Rebbes even though it clearly refers only to the Sanhedrin. The answer is that it is used ‘haskafically’ in regards to trusting in our Tzaddikim and following what they say even if it goes against our own personal understanding. It cannot, however, be taken literally.

    We are responsible for goyim too (as long as we don’t need to be moser Nefesh etc). That’s what our obligation of teaching the 7 mitzvos bnei noach is about. 1 of them is about belief in Hashem.

    No we are NOT responsible for goyim! כל ישראל ערבים זה בזה applies ONLY to Yidden.

    Look in my original post I said someone who is studying to be a giyores. She’s been on that path for a while. I wouldn’t call her a shikse- rather a potential giyores. And the fact she senses this, in addition to her commitment to this path so far- to me indicates a Jewish Neshama.

    I would definitely call her a shikse (probably not to her face so as not to insult her) because she is! Would you let her touch your wine? Would you eat something she cooked? Is she allowed to keep Shabbos? The answer to each of the above, I’m sure you’d agree, is ‘no’. So she does not have a Jewish Neshama at all, and she is still a shikse until after giyur, albeit probably one of the chassidei (chassidos?) umos ha’olam.

    And the fact that her father is Jewish makes no difference in halachah.

    #2277342
    ARSo
    Participant

    CS: The Rebbe never meant it doesn’t make sense period.

    I believe that is indeed what he said. Can you please find the quote?

    I meant that in lubavitch there is a systematic path of avoda one can take from the lowest point to an endless height with role models along the way. That’s what Chabad is about.

    You are very blinkered. That is what the entire world is about, and Yidden have many paths to rise ‘to the Heavens’ by looking up to and emulating those who are on higher levels than they themselves are. But that doesn’t excuse a community not objecting to the many women who are publicly not tzniusdik, and who are thereby machshil others. I’m not talking about yelling at them or anything like that. But the objections should be strong enough that they feel uncomfortable dressing improperly in public.

    #2277346
    ARSo
    Participant

    yb, there should be some prize for you posting post no. 770.

    #2277391
    yankel berel
    Participant

    @arso
    Same gimatria as Tsarfat
    and as Ufaratsta
    Besides functioning as bet rabenu shebebavel

    All part of the torat maham shilo – torah hadashah me iti tetse
    —–

    #2277543
    sechel83
    Participant

    @yankel berel about gimatria of 770 and tzarfat:
    It should be noted that the sicha about 770 is 20 pages long, there is a footnote about 770 being the gimatria of bais moshiach. The main explanation is based on a gemarah in megillah, see there at length. A gimatria can’t by itself proove anything but as explained in Tanya shaar hayichud veemuna that everything in the world gets it’s life from the עשרה מאמרים, either directly or thru צירופי אותיות or גימטריות so a gimatria could be used so show a connection after you have a proof.
    The sicha is in Sefer hasichos תשנב page 465-485.
    And what’s your issue with tzarfat exactly? (The sicha is in 5752 ויצא or וישלח I think)

    #2277550
    sechel83
    Participant

    Arso the rambam clearly writes we need to teach goyim to keep the שבע מצוות בני נח,
    Oh so you agree כל ישראל ערבים, so do you go to not frum yidden and do mitzvos with them תפילין, give them מצה, or only after they were short sheitels and long skirts?
    Btw do you have an issue with the “litvaks” who were lace top shaitels that dosen cover all the hair or the tichels that don’t either? Or only chabad with the long shaitels which are much more tzniusdik halachakly?

    #2277558
    sechel83
    Participant

    General comment on this tznius discussion: what exactly do you non chababakers propose? That anyone who is not 100% tznius should be banned from crown heights? Or from entering a shul? Enforced by police?
    Which other shul or community has such a thing?
    Growing up chabad, many of my friends were sons of baalai tshuvah, their mothers and sisters kept tznius 100%, but when they first came to a pesach Seder or shul, they did not, you can’t put shaitels for everything to put on when they come to shul, and although the shuls try to encourage people to dress modest, 1) people coming by the beginning don’t understand all the halachos of tznius, 2) (as far as I know) we don’t hold of enforcement of not letting someone In who is dressed not tznius 1) she’s on the women side so it’s not an issue for men davening 2) we see how such people slowly become more and more frum (besides for the fact that every mitzvah is important to hashem as explained In Tanya. Like I mentioned before.
    There are 613 mitzvos in the Torah, if a person is not ready to keep all, he or she should definitely keep what he can and מצוה גוררת מצוה,
    If we shut the doors to anyone who doesn’t dress 100% tznius, then those women will leave the community totally (as happens all over in other communitys), so I guess you hold it’s better so that it won’t effect the “frum” but we hold different. If you bring a proof from דברי חז”ל that your way is correct, I can try to prove our way.
    I just think that next time you kick out a girl from shul who is not dressed tzniusdik, tell she that chabad will welcome her, or you can put on the sign “don’t come into our shul untznius, if you need a shul go to chabad.”

    #2277560
    AviraDeArah
    Participant

    “litvaks” don’t wear lace top shaitels. Modern, baalabatish people do it because they want it to look as though they’re not wearing a shaitel. All the litvishe poskim clearly ruled that they’re assur.

    Who said a long shaitel is more tznius than a tichel which leaves less than a tefach exposed? Lomg shaitels are alluring. Tichels are not, even if a small amount of hair is showing. Halacha allows that. It does not allow alluring styles, which include long, fancy shaitels.

    And no, foreign as this may seem, most kiruv workers do not stand in the street, expose tefilin to pritzus,and then wrap these holy objects on the arms of people full of machshavos asuros who probably don’t have guf naki and whose hands have been heaven knows where.

    #2277566
    sechel83
    Participant

    “כל המסתכל באצבע קטנה של אשה, כאילו מסתכל במקום התורף(הערווה)” (תלמוד בבלי, מסכת ברכות דף כד
    Point being that it sounds like you and other people feel that for example the שוק being exposed causes men to sin, which I don’t argue with, but even walking on the street between 100% tznius women, there is a נסיון of שמירת עינים.
    The rambam writes in hilchos teshuvah that someone should not say “what’s so bad about staring at a women, did I get close to her, I didn’t do any avaira, etc.”
    So a man has his responsibility to gaurd his eyes even not looking at a women’s face or finger, reb Moshe has a tshuvah that if a men can’t control himself he shouldn’t go to work, (he doesn’t write just to continue looking at women, and complain about it on the yeshiva world)
    Also another point: the Arabs basically dress in a way that no man would look at them, yidden don’t do that even though if Jewish women would all dress that way men would have much less of a nisaon, christians also are careful with lusting after women and are much more leinyent than halacha.
    So yiddishkeit lihavdil has halachos, it’s not just what you feel and make up.
    Another point is that in alot of communitys chabad and I think litvaks too, shmiras enayim was not spoken about much in public. One of the reasons for this is and stated in Zohar and brought in likutai Torah, is that a person looks at women when he’s empty of a connection to hashem, so we focus on davening and that takes care of the issue. If a person is empty inside , you can have all the filters and live in kiryas yoel, you’ll still be doing aviros with lust

    #2277571
    ARSo
    Participant

    sechel, we’ve dealt with the 7 mitzvos topic at length in the past. The Rambam does NOT say that we have to teach goyim the 7 mitvos. He writes that Hashem told Moshe Rabbeinu to ‘force’ all of non-Jewish humanity to keep the mitvos that Bnei Noach were commanded, and that if they don’t they are to be executed! So all the meforshim agree that it doesn’t apply to times when the goyim are not under the control of Bnei Yisroel. Furthermore, there are criteria that must be met in order for the non-Jew to be considered adhering to the mitvos of Bnei Noach, and merely doing it out of morality is meaningless. As I wrote, we have discussed this at length in the past.

    As Kol Yisrael areivim, if it means that we have to go out and get non-frum people to put on tefillin etc, why did not of the preceding Lubavicher Rebbes tell t cheir hassidim to do so? And why is tefillin more important than any other mitzvah? Why not informing people that they are not allowed to have tattoos, or any other of the many mitzvos that they unfortunately do not fulfill?

    #2277649
    sechel83
    Participant

    Arso, kol yisroel aravim, make up your mind, does it apply or not, if yes, go put on tefillin with yidden (why tefillin yes tell them not to put tattoos too, but why would he listen, tefillin is a one time mitzvah that connects a Jew with a yichud nitzchi to hashem, also הוקשה כל התורה כולה לתפילין, )
    If it doesn’t apply so what do you care about others keeping tznius,
    So what does it mean according to you?
    No other rabbaim sent shluchim? The Baal shem tov himself traveled to be mikarev Jews, and sent shluchim, so did all the rebbes. If anything how it’s only chabad, many yrs ago it was every rebbe going around himself and sending shluchim to be mikarev Jews. It was maybe a bit different cuz most Jews in those times were just simple and ignorent and needed chizuk, to be taught what to do, but even then they deal with people totally off as seen in all the seforim.
    Avira so basically any litvaks who doesn’t live up to all the standards you call modern balabatish, so all you want from chabad is to do the same thing ? To call these modern chabad ok, what did you gain? Some lashon hara? You didn’t solve any issue, that’s called narssasisim, to just care about my image, and no one in “my image” should make me look bad.
    Alluring – everyone has different taste and evident from the different styles. So like I wrote, tell your wife and the frum world to dress like Arabs – to be less alluring.

    #2277650
    sechel83
    Participant

    Arso and avira, maybe you guys should write a Sefer about what’s alluring and what’s not,
    Just because you have machshavos asuros, doesn’t mean the guy in the street does.
    Maybe if you would have תלמוד תורה עם דרך ארץ it would be משכחת עון

    #2277654
    sechel83
    Participant

    @avira
    litvaks” don’t wear lace top shaitels. Modern, baalabatish people do it because they want it to look as though they’re not wearing a shaitel. All the litvishe poskim clearly ruled that they’re assur.
    Ok so the problem was already taken care of in chabad, the badatz already put out letters what’s asur and what’s mutar.
    As far as not calling them chabad, chabad in the first place is not a sect of Jews, chabad chassidus is for everyone, so there are no guidelines to be considered chabad, and you get nothing by being chabad. You don’t need to sign up to be chabad. No one needs to know your chabad. Done.
    Just like no one has authority to tell someone he’s not Jewish cuz he’s not keeping a certain halacha (even a mumar lihachis, only hashem can decide, hashem didn’t put a gadol in charge to tell people “your not Jewish cuz your a mamar liavoda Zara” or the like .
    So stop looking for issues in others and focus on yourself, if you fixed yourself, go be mikarev other yidden, if you don’t hold of arvus, for sure don’t write about bad things others do (cuz your whole accuse is to keep people away from chabad, if you don’t hold of arvus, you have no reason)

    #2277655
    HaLeiVi
    Participant

    ARSo, why do you mix good arguments with poor ones? Take this:
    As Kol Yisrael areivim, if it means that we have to go out and get non-frum people to put on tefillin etc, why did not of the preceding Lubavicher Rebbes tell t cheir hassidim to do so? And why is tefillin more important than any other mitzvah? Why not informing people that they are not allowed to have tattoos, or any other of the many mitzvos that they unfortunately do not fulfill?

    It’s obvious that our generation is faced with a scenario that was not around previously. Lubavitch aren’t the only ones involved in Kiruv. For Satmar have an Ezer Labochurim in Hungary? Was there a Keiravtuni in “the Alter Heim”, or a Kesher Nafshi?

    And so you seriously think it’s a good idea to do as you proposed, to tell people off for having tattoos?

    #2277674
    ujm
    Participant

    How is putting Tefilin on random people in the streets of St. Louis, New Orleans, Winnipeg, Albuquerque or even Manhattan, who may possibly be Jewish, “kiruv”?

    These random folks on the street are doing it for the “experience” or fun, with no intention of doing anything more in the future.

    #2277708
    yankel berel
    Participant

    CS is [mis]quoting tanya 32 .
    It says clearly in tanya 32 that apikorsim there is a mitsva to have tahlit sin’a against them .

    CS seems to argue against the tanya …”
    [yb]

    Yes he also defines an apikores The way I wrote- someone who was at your level in Torah and mitzvos, you already tried to bring them back by fulfilling the Mitzvah hocheach tochiach (according to the dinim – gently and privately at first, unless making a public chillul Hashem etc) and he refuses to return.
    [CS]
    ===================================
    I looked up the tanya [ch 32] this morning .
    CS is misquoting tanya for the second time.
    You cannot learn gmara or tanya or whatever if you are not exact.

    All those prerequisites CS mentioned are not in connection to an apikorus. Tanya clearly mentions them in regard to a non apikorus.
    CS is the one who wants us to believe that they pertain to the apikorus.

    Not so ,according to tanya.
    Mind you that ‘s from someone whose brothers are ‘besting’ the non habad people with their arguments ….
    She learnt wrong pshat in her own mentors words – only to be found out by a ‘hater’ ….

    A clear sign that the only objective the average habad person has in learning tanya- is to find USAGE of tanyas words to support their preconceived notions of what habad stands for.
    As opposed to a no holds barred limud of tanya, without negi’ut, ,only to search for and find the true meaning of the authors kavana in the tanya’s words.

    #2277726

    >> How is putting Tefilin on random people

    Haleivi >> our generation is faced with a scenario that was not around previously. Lubavitch aren’t the only ones involved in Kiruv.

    I agree that our generation, and several last generations, encountered, and continues, encountering, changes larger than in most other times and we need to figure out a response and it is a hard challenge Hashem is giving us. And we need to give credit where it is due – to those Chabadniks who terelessly stand ask “excuse me are you Jewish” and do a lot of less visible activity than putting a tefilin in the street. … and s indeed many others are now involved with ‘Kiruv”, Chabad started it way earlier, with higher intensity and never used this questionable word that assumes that you are closer to Hashem than the other guy just because you learnt a little more. And maybe some of the undeniable problems the movement has is a side effect of their outreach. As R Miller says: if you put your hand into a fire to save a child, it is the right thing to do, but expect your hand to have burns.

    They also made themselves very visible, so everyone has a kashya on Tanya or on their minhagim. A lot of other movements are way more insular. We see that when their views get exposed and debated here, many other groups are also not able to easily defend their views.

    #2277734
    ARSo
    Participant

    sechel: Arso and avira, maybe you guys should write a Sefer about what’s alluring and what’s not

    I don’t know about Avira, but I won’t write a sefer on it because, as you pointed out the other day, no one will accept any sefer written by me because of what I post here!

    At any rate, there are two points to address, at least, as far as I am concerned:

    1. There is a distinct lack of tznius in Lubavich (of course, not c”v everyone, but the younger the generation the worse it seems) in areas that are clearly delineated in Shulchan Aruch. So no other sefer is needed.
    2. There are indeed seforim that deal with what is considered ‘alluring’, e.g. lace sheitels, and I BH don’t need to start investigating that topic.

    #2277729
    ARSo
    Participant

    sechel, I never suggested that a non-tznius woman should be thrown out of the community. What I would like to see, however, is that there is a generally accepted attitude in Crown Heights, and other Lubavich communities, that non-tznius is TOTALLY unacceptable.

    If it would be the BTs who were the only ones who were not tzniusdik, I could understand, but don’t fool yourself, it isn’t! I have lived in areas with a large Lubavich presence – and as I have mentioned many times, I have close relatives who are Lubavich – and what I have literally seen b’oness with my own eyes has at times shocked me. And I’m referring to women who are makpid to wear sheitels in public because that’s what the LR wanted. (I don’t want to elaborate further, or even go there in my mind, because you’re not allowed to remember those sights!)

    If these women weren’t stam ‘accepted’ the way they are, but they were repeatedly approached and told that their mode of dress is unconsionable, and that it would be better if they stayed at home, perhaps it would help. Ah, but in Lubavich we let everyone do as they want on their own level… and that’s why we have so much attrition (which we constantly deny, but which everyone else knows about).

    #2277730
    ARSo
    Participant

    sechel: in alot of communitys chabad and I think litvaks too, shmiras enayim was not spoken about much in public. One of the reasons for this is and stated in Zohar and brought in likutai Torah, is that a person looks at women when he’s empty of a connection to hashem, so we focus on davening and that takes care of the issue.

    “And that takes care of the issue”?! Really?! Had you said that it MIGHT take care of the issue, ok, but it doesn’t. The language and behavior of Lubavich men and bochurim in matters of tznius is on average far far worse than it is in other kreizen. Yes, I know, there are many fine Lubavicher who won’t foul their mouths and who try to keep a decent level of separation of the genders etc, but the average bochur and yungerman…?! So don’t mention shmiras einayim and just keep talkeing about davening. That takes care of it.

    #2277733
    ARSo
    Participant

    sechel: The Baal shem tov himself traveled to be mikarev Jews, and sent shluchim, so did all the rebbes. If anything how it’s only chabad, many yrs ago it was every rebbe going around himself and sending shluchim to be mikarev Jews. It was maybe a bit different cuz most Jews in those times were just simple and ignorent and needed chizuk, to be taught what to do, but even then they deal with people totally off as seen in all the seforim.

    They most certainly did not travel to non-frum Yidden to be mekarev them because the concept of ‘non-frum Yidden’ had not really come about at the time. As you yourself say, they traveled in their areas to encourage people who were erlich and yirei Shomayim, but who needed chizuk. Yes, there is the occasional story of meeting meshumadim and the like – there is a famous story of the Besh”t and the bishop – but those incidents were to save Yidden, not merely to be mekarev the meshumad himself.

    In truth, I don’t know the extent of kol Yisrael areivim, which is why I did not bring any argument to indicate that we are not responsible for all the Yidden who don’t put on tefillin. But the fact remains, that it was never done in the past in any community, so the rule of kol Yisrael areivim must not apply to that type of activity. I don’t know why, but it seems very clear to me that that is the case.

    #2277818
    AviraDeArah
    Participant

    ARSo, not only is it accepted, but such lacking people are,as noted here, sometimes promoted to positions of communally leadership and representation of chabad abroad, something unthinkable in other circles. Even modern Orthodox rebbetzins dress according to halacha nowadays, as far as i know.

    I’d also add to your point about letting everyone do things on their own level – I’ve heard as a knee-jerk reaction from supposedly anti-messianic people that the reason why they don’t come out in a ma’aracha, full blown opposition to the messianics is because “there’s enough division in klal yisroel as it is.” This empty line seems rehearsed and inculcated, but aside from its disingenuousness, it also speaks to how much neo-chabad will admit to the chaos in its camp, where no rules are set in stone and you practically have to be Shmuely boteach to get any kind of reprimand….or maybe he’s ok now too; who knows.

    #2277986
    sechel83
    Participant

    Ujm : how do you know the intention of the Jew putting on tefillin? Anyway as long as a Jew has kavanah that he is doing a mitzvah – commandment of hashem he fulfills the mitzvah (see shulchan aruch)
    Every mitzvah connects a Jew with a everlasting connection to hashem – Tanya perek 22. And mitzvah goreres mitzvah as we see thousands of Jews started putting on tefillin every day, keeping shabbos, kosher, (becoming “frum”) as a result of one time tefillin.

    @arso
    how you you know where the shmiras enayim is better or worse ? And as mentioned before anyone who doesn’t keep all the “takanos” of the yeshivish rabbonim, is modern, so if you want, you can say the same thing in chabad. Anyone who doesn’t keep the letters of the badatz of crown heights or eretz yisroel (which includes strict guidelines on tznius) call them modern! Issue solved? Now your happy.

    #2277979
    sechel83
    Participant

    Arso being mekarev yidden. See keser shem tov, see seforim hakdoahim – full of it.
    See specifically the Sefer pokeach ivrim from the mitiler rebbe. How he instucts a Baal tshuvah how to act, and see the hakdama which has the story behind it that the alter rebbe – Baal hatanya told a big Talmud chacham to become a wagon driver, and that’s how he ended up being mikarev this yid (who was married to a non Jew)
    I agree it was less commen being that there were much less non frum Jews.
    And according to you it’s new, so…. Internet it also new, shaitels are also new, yeshiva movement is also new, brisker derech halimud is also new,
    Tznius comments – nothing to add, as I said the same isur applys to staring at a finger of a women as any other part of her. Torah gave us halachos, and also teaches how to enforce them, when their was a Sanhedrin they killed for many aviros, gave malkos for many. Today we don’t have a Sanhedrin.
    Lubavitcher rabbonim have their way of dealing with it (as far as I know, every summer they right about it in the halachos for the summer that comes out) they teach about it in education.
    We way do different than others. Btw someone’s comment that less than a tefach of hair is ok, maybe reb Moshe held that way but everyone else argues. Chabad holds that even a drop of hair is an issue, and that’s why we have shaitels. There is mekoros in chazal that the yetzer hara is not in the shaitels – hair not connected to the body. (See שלחן מנחם). So maybe others hold different but our way is halachakly based. (Those who hold long shaitels are ok, I’m not saying all chabad rabbonim hold that way)
    We can’t enforce things the way we feel. Many from the older generation thought to educate their kids a certain way – very strict and harsh, and today many see the outcome of those good intentions. Same thing with telling off people who are not tznius, you can search the internet and see some of the otd satmers who speak about it.

    #2277991
    sechel83
    Participant

    @arso now that you know that when you go to your relatives you may see something not tznius, did you stop going?
    I’m not sure exactly the halachos, but the Gemara in b”b says that someone who passes a non tznius place, when he has a different way to go, even if he doesn’t look is a rasha.
    If you don’t need to go somewhere, you’re not allowed to go there if there is non tznius women, I’m not sure exactly the pratim, you should ask your rav, (not just go and write about it on tyw, being over לא תתורו and לשון הרע,)

    #2277997
    sechel83
    Participant

    Arso tefillin on Jews. The agudas harabbanim of usa and Canada wrote a letter encouraging מבצע תפילין, there is also a separate letter from Reb mosh feinsten supporting all the rebbes mivtzoim. Search Google and you can find them.
    (Why it wasn’t done before, 1) many places were anti semitic or at least anti encouraging non religious Jews to practice similari to why Jews didn’t encourage non Jews to keep Sheva mitzvos. 2) a lot of the unreligious Jews many yrs ago were anti religious not like today who just grew up non frum. 3) I think you could find in history a concep of putting tefillin on non frum Jews (definitely from the Baal shem tov, and I think from the סמג, I need to check)
    Anyway all the gedolim supported it besides the satmer rebbe. Reb yeruchem from the mir wrote a letter in support.
    Somehow ponovitch and satmer had success thru their massive advertising campaigns to convince dumb people who are too stupid to research facts, that all the gedolim were always against chabad or at least since the rebbe or the frierdiker rebbe.

    #2278003
    ujm
    Participant

    Sechel: What intention? He doesn’t know what a mitzvah even is and his knowledge of Tefilin is what he saw on television.

    Half of those saying they’re Jewish aren’t even Jewish.

    #2278017
    AviraDeArah
    Participant

    There seems to be a big disconnect here.

    By “litvishe,” i and the other posters here are referring to people who live by the mesorah of litvishe yeshivos and rabbonim. But it’s not centralized; there are scragglers who are loosely affiliated or not at all, and there are people who might have grown up in yeshivos but became baalebatish and discarded much of the mesorah.

    That being said, in places like Lakewood, no one who wears a lace top shaitel would ever be chosen or kept in any kind of chinuch role. There are community standards that if not kept, might not lead to a cherem but will also make such people ostracized. It’s not what I’m “calling” modern – there are, firstly, modern orthodox jews, and there are the above weaker people, but you seem to want to lump together all non-chabad people as if we’re a homogenous group, differences between which critics of chabad are inventing out of thin air.

    The difference is that in chabad, there’s a tolerance for sinfulness in the above issues (and others), as long as you consider yourself Lubavitch. Now you might not get a shiduch with a gez family, but you will be shielded from criticsm from us “snags” simply because you believe in their rebbe.

    Making belief in a person so central to a religious perspective, where stated belief in him is almost the sole criteria for shielding and acceptance, and the one deal breaker, where if someone opposes him, he is totally chutz lemachaneh…. that is essentially christian.

    #2278022
    AviraDeArah
    Participant

    Sechel, the point is that a person has a darca achrina, an alternative route. Being with one’s close relatives is not darka achrina. What would be the alternative? I agree that one in that situation shouldn’t see them unnecessarily, but for family occasions this is derech eretz.

    #2278058
    ARSo
    Participant

    Sechel: how you you know where the shmiras enayim is better or worse?

    Shmiras einayim is ALWAYS better where women are tzniusdik as opposed to where they aren’t. There’s no way out of that, regardless of whatever you’ll answer about learning chassidus and davening.

    And there’s another issue of tznius that, as far as I can recall, hasn’t been mentioned at all. In which other frum communities do you find teenage and adult men walking around wearing shorts and flip-flops? Of course, this is accompanied by full beards and tzitzis hanging loose. After all, we are Lubavichers, aren’t we? And I’m not talking about BTs or people going OTD. I’m talking about regular Lubavichers who don’t care about tznius as it applies to men. I remember seeing a clip of Rabbi Paltiel decrying the fact that Lubavichers don’t all wear suits, hats and jackets. Shorts and flip-flops?! Mahn dechar shmeihu?

    And as mentioned before anyone who doesn’t keep all the “takanos” of the yeshivish rabbonim, is modern, so if you want, you can say the same thing in chabad. Anyone who doesn’t keep the letters of the badatz of crown heights or eretz yisroel (which includes strict guidelines on tznius) call them modern! Issue solved? Now your happy.

    Not at all happy, and for at least two reasons:
    1. Many/most of these families where the women don’t care about tznius consider themselves fully-committed Lubavichers, and no one says otherwise.
    2. Some of these women are shluchos, and thus OFFICIALLY represent Lubavich.

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