This short article recently appeared on www (dot) matzav (dot) com:
“In a new letter, Rav Avrohom Schorr, the Rov of Khal Nezer Gedalyahu in Flatbush,
expressed deep dismay over the increasing extravagance observed at
Friday Toameha gatherings and at Kiddushim on Shabbos,
particularly highlighting the excessive drinking of alcohol
and the lavish spending associated with these events.
The letter, penned on Erev Shabbos Nachamu to members of his bais medrash,
serves as a clarion call for a return to the core values of simplicity and modesty.
Rav Schorr pointed out that the opulence of these events,
especially the overindulgence in alcohol,
not only shifts the focus from the spiritual and communal aspects of Shabbos
but also exacerbates financial pressures on families.
In light of the current economic challenges faced by many,
he emphasized that such overspending is particularly egregious.
Moreover, Rav Schorr noted that Toameha gatherings do not have any halachic significance.”
Jack Addes made this comment:
“Yeshivos can’t meet payroll obligations at the same time
that we’re making these lavish enjoyment times.
Rich people are allowed to spend their money as they wish,
but when their children’s mosdos are behind in paying
their children’s moros and rebbees,
this might be the time for introspection and recalibration.”
Anonymous made this comment:
Especially when it has led to destructive behavior such as
driving drunk and killing people (for anyone who is paying attention)
just amazing how we mask idiotic behavior by giving it a name
that makes it sound like a mitzva; all you have to do
is check their overall attitude towards Mitzvos that don’t “taste good”
SOURCE: article titled:
“Rav Avrohom Schorr Calls Out Excessiveness
at Kiddushim and Toameha Gatherings”
from 2024 August 17 www (dot) matzav (dot) com