YYA > to make a ‘binary choice’ between a goyish velt that increasingly brooks no compromise on THEIR ‘hashkafah’, and some sort of real Torah hashkafah. Stretching that term as wide as possible still can’t accommodate LGBTQXYZ_who_knows_what_next+++, and not accommodating the flavor-of-the-month will get you ‘cancelled’ professionally and academically.
This is again picturing the other side as the extreme, something you reasonably complained about when others look at you. Just nudge your community to accept modernity to the extent R Twersky did – and respect others that do – and let’s talk then.
There can be coexistence without compromising individual values and hashkafah.
Sure there can be. IMHO, the reason there is less than there could be is simply because in big cities each individual community is big enough to do their own thing with little interaction with others. That also affords the luxury of circling the wagons and criticizing others… In out-of-town settings you do see much more cooperation.