A strong emphasis on reverence certainly can be taken too far and cause people to idealize those who they revere. This is not deification and sainthood. Idealize and Idolize are not synonyms.
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I don’t understand why you think it’s reasonable that the Chareidi tzibur should, pitom, disregard the instructions of their Rebbeim and follow psakim of R”Z Rebbeim. I am speaking here about your contention that everyone should join the IDF. What does the absence of a formal, binding takana have to do with this?