Reply To: Dating Dilemmas

to respond to ‘madeofsteel’ the reason I put this on here was to honestly get ppl’s opinions on the aforementioned, bec I think they are haskafa issues rather than halachic (besides maybe the sharing the dish) .

The word hashkafa actually means “viewpoint” so ppl’s hashkafos will be different just as no two ppl are coming from the same exact backgrounds & same upbringings , it is very likely for ppl to have differing viewpoints or hashkafos , nothing wrong with that we have to be able to hear out others’ opinions in a non-attacking manner! The viewpoint I was looking for was for pretty mainstream BY/yeshiva type bec thats what ‘category’ I wud fall into ..

Personally I wouldnt say no to a guy if he did not walk me out of the car , but usually the more sensitive guys the ones who can win middos awards type will definitely walk the girl out @ end of date . Its just a thoughtful gesture nothing deeper and nothing untznius about it-he doesnt have to walk behind her-they walk together !

The opening the cardoor wasn’t even my question bec thats a given that its done @ least in my dating circles.

To the guy who suggested that the girls open the doors for the guys do u also want to reverse the whole dating roles, i.e. should the girl pick up the guy from his house?, should she drive?, pay for the date? propose ?? etc.. maybe we should chip in dating can be expensive ,gas tolls food etc.. & we can alternate who drives take turns on the dates 🙂 JK!