rabbiofberlin, I’m still curious where you got your semicha from.
Your responses to this post-seminary young woman seem, to me, misleading.
Music has a powerful effect on the Neshama; that is not debatable. Your point about how the gedolim must be wrong because so many people became religious through R’ Shlomo Carlebach Z”L is fallacious; IF, and (since I do not know either way) I emphasize, IF he was incorrect in his methods and his music was deemed by the rabbanim to be inappropriate to listen to, THEN no amount of good that comes out of it makes it worth listening to it.
Since you seem to have the same false notions about Zionism, I’ll bring Zionism as an example. The Torah greats came out almost uniformly and quite vehemently against Zionism and its state, and with the benefit of hindsight and history we see clearly (if we choose not to pull the wool over our own eyes) just how correct they were that Zionism was and is a massive disaster for the Jewish people, on many levels, despite the “silver linings in the cloud” (and, if history and facts are your guide, that’s really all they are, at best).
Put briefly, a mitzva HaBaah BaAveirah, is….an Aveirah.
As far as the girls coming out to greet the young men on Tu BiAv and Yom Kippur, it wasn’t a singles bar scene, I can assure you. Practically speaking, our personalities, interests and hakpados are so much more complex today than they were then, that a gathering like that described in the mishna would seem to be a waste of time and, instead, serve to provoke taava, CH”V, rather than promote marriage.
I happen to agree that rather than running after kol koreis, one should follow Pirkei Avos, “Asei licha Rav”, and direct one’s inquiries to that Rav.
Ksiva VaChasima Tova to all of Klal Yisrael.