Unfortunatally, the takonos are only as effective as the rabbis who really stick to them. How many rabbis still go to the simchos of their rich balbatim who don’t stick to the takanos?
I DO think the takanos are a good idea because then peole who can’t afford it, can have a simpler wedding without having to admit to having money problems. They can always say that they are tzadikim and following the takanos. The takanos gives people a way to save face.
Personally, I think it is obserd to spend a fortune for 6 hours. I truly don’t understand ice carvings