Just me – Although I’ve been screaming out a;; week long against the latest push for Vaad Hatznius, non-the-less I must contest with you here.
You write, “As for me, I do what I think is the way I should act…”.
I must say being the wife of what seems to be a fine Ben Torah (according to the way you describe your husband) it appears to me that you are not living up to his standards. A woman who’s husband supposedly seeks every opportunity available to learn Torah and understand what Hashem wants from us should likewise search out what Hashem feels is the gedarim of tznius, not decide on one’s own.