Havesomeseichel- although I dont totally agree with torahis1, I must say I really don’t think that the complaints of weight in shidduchim are referring to the 6-8-10 which many times are even skinny or not obese girls. The shidduch and weight complaint is really one that heavy girls face, such as girls more than a 10/12 as you say. Though what they do not realize is that while their size is what makes it their stigma, another girls family sitch makes it her stigma, and a girl from out in yehupitz has that in the way, and a girl with a big nose and acne might have that holding things up! ‘Kitzur… its a problem in shidduchim not just the weight.
as for torahis1,— man your brain is twisted! how can an intelligent psn compare someone who hitched himself on puffing to someone who has a slow metabolism?!? Not every fat girl is a chazur! I know you were trying to be corny but all those dudes who smoke, first of all don’t have shiddduchim half as bad as even skinny girls! all they have to do is claim they’ll stop or not even cuz the girls are so desperate they’ll give in if it means they’ll be able to be married!
These days guys know how bad a puff is and they are just idiots trying to be cool and get hooked. If (and that is even if) they have to pay a price in shidduchim, nobody has to feel bad for them before they feel bad for all the girls out there with their pekelach that they did NOT usually chose to have with them