R’ Feivel–I appreciate so much your clarification as well.
I’m not sure why you assumed I wouldn’t like what HoRav Miller ZTz’l had to say…it is emes and I like it…
so we will continue to say a tefillah when we hear the sirens wail. If it is a Yid he should have a refuah and if it’s not than the tefillah we say will go to Hashem and He will decide what to do with it. It’s not a stira to feel concern for whoever is in the ambulance. What I honed from the message on the tape was increasing our level of concern for our fellow yidden.
In any case, the act of being aware of one’s surroundings and in tune with the need to be compassionate in general can only enhance the midos one wants to insill in their children.
To be sure though, when it does happen again I will add that if it is a yid in the ambulance, it will enhance our Ahavas Chinom and Ahavas Yisroel…if it isn’t a yid, we can direct our tefillos to the Rofei Chol Bosor, and reiterate that Hashem is in charge of every briah. I think that would be in line with the Rov’s teachings.