Just Me, I am SO with you on this one. I am sick and tired of this emphasis on size numbers. When I was a teenager, a girl being a size 10 was thought to be gorgeous! Now they are HEAVY??????? Please. What is next? Olive Oyl as poster gilr for obesity? Our girls have an epidemic of anorexia and bulemia, and this is what it our shidduch process is perpetuating. I have a proposal for this problem. I personally do NOT like the shidduch process as it exists, and think it should be disbanded altogether, and young people should be allowed to mix and mingle and actually meet each other on their own. Now THERE is a controversial idea. I also think, that barring the Yeshiva world accepting this as a viable means of shidduchim (and I cannot see why, it was done in ancient times on Tu B’av, wasn’t it?), then at least it should be a takanah, that NO shadchan, no obnoxious mother of the boy, nobody, is EVER halachically permitted to ask about the size or weight of the girl. Ask about her middos, her career, her mailos, but not about her physical appearance. That is something that is very subjective.
The daughter of a former Rav ZT”L of mine, was a homely girl. She had a huge nose and bad teeth. But she was always thought to be glamorous by anyone who met her. She put herself together well, and had a sparkling personality. No one really noticed her nose, her teeth, or anything else but her personality. People should not describe someone to anyone who has not met the other person. It predisposes them to thinking of the person in a certain way, and it is best if they get to make their own minds up.