Sjs,
1) I never said you need to get up & publicly announce it. I simply said that there is no issur to speak Lashon Hara about someone who cosistently does issurim that are mefursam. I added that the Seforim even say that one SHOULD speak negatively about such people to reinforce to oneself & one’s family that such behavior is UNACCEPTABLE.
This will not cause her to go off even further.
You could & most likely should still “be there for her”.
If one is a RAV or Rosh Yeshiva, perhaps they should “announce” it publicly as well, when I’m a Rav I’ll worry about that.
2) Your “habit not to judge others” is contrary to Halacha. The Chofetz Chaim says black on white mutiple times that there no mitzva to be dan lekaf z’chus such a person & says, on the contrary, the chiyuv regarding such people is to be dan kekaf chova.
3) Driving to shul on shabbos is an “anti-halachic view”.
4) I am not at all harsh with “people struggling with halacha”.
Believe it or not 🙂 I am actually very kind warm & patient with them.
I AM harsh with people like you who try to justify & not judge such behavior.
5)Ousting people from the community – it would seem to me – would depend on whether or not they are spiritually endangering others.
6) There is a difference between cheating on taxes & doing avairos publicly. (Obviously the people who cheat on taxes will have a good seat in gihennomm – although I try not to judge anybody – 🙂 )