I agree 100%. That’s why it bugs me when MO complain that chareidim are “machmirim”.
I think what many MO people are talking about is that there are plenty of times that Charedim take halacha and add a chumra, that the community takes on as a halacha. Then, the yeshivish people forgo any other possible halachic ruling and say what they are doing is the minimum.
Joseph: notpashut, the reason so many MO fellows villify and attack Chareidim/Chasidim/etc. is the same reason so many of the non-orthodox villify and attack the Orthodox.
The reason modern orthodoxy is withering on the vine (while Chareidim are growing by leaps and bounds — both internally and through the Baal Teshuva movement), is because by and large the MO children either become more Chareidi, or they move further left and R’L fall off the Jewish map.
Intellegent, my (yeshivish) friend who eats cholov yisroel was told by her Rabbi that if there was a big financial or taste difference she could use cholov stam. Since money is not really an object for her, she eats cholov stam ice-cream because the taste is significantly better than cholov yisroel. Chocolate is also significantly better. Cholov yisroel milk and dairy products are significantly more expensive. Why would I pay $2 for a container of sour cream when I can pay 9 cents?
You tend to have opinions but have little fact to back it up.