actually, i said it in those words because you did.
Do we have to have the gedolim’s permission before any public event (or private?) is held?
but i still think that a chinese auction, a BY play, and a concert should be approved. and BEFORE they become public knowledge. making a birthday party for your five year-old kid should not be a problem. if you wanna invite exotic dancers, i’d suggest you clear it with you LOR. i can’t believe i’m telling someone much older than i am to USE THEIR COMMON SENSE! come on!