brooklyn19, no need to take a sarcastic tone.
If you are really unsure about a particular event and sincerely believe that there is a possibility of someone sinning as a direct result of that event- fine. Be my guest and consult a Rav, but again, I don’t think a gadol’s opinion is necessary. Why wouldn’t an ordinary Rav know enough? Anyway, I don’t see how there would be any issue with the events that were mentioned. BY plays are generally conducted in a tznius way; the girls’ costumes are extremely modest even though the audiences are all female. What kind of sinning would occur that makes it so important to ask the gadol?
I’m sorry that you misunderstood me before. Perhaps I didn’t make myself clear enough. I would never advocate “milking” gedolim “for all they’ve got”. Did you infer this from my comment about the childless couple? That was just the first example that came to mind, but certainly, gedolim have tremendous wisdom that should not c”v be “thrown out”; rather, it should not be wasted on small matters that local rebbeim can deal with. This discussion is reminding me strongly of Parshat Yitro (my bat mitzvah parsha!) Yitro instituted a system because Moshe Rabbeinu was unable to deal with the torrent of questions coming his way and was just exhausted from being on his feet all day. So Yitro gave all but the most urgent and difficult questions to lesser authorities. Shouldn’t we do the same now?