“ALSO>>> very important… when doing chesed for ppl, do it in a way that they don’t feel like a nebuch situation. It’s hard to take chesed too. I recently had to take favors from ppl and I felt so uncomfy yet in some cases they made it like I was doing them the favor (not fakely but in a real way) and other times I felt like thanks but I dont need your favor”
Excellent, excellent point. we all need help at some point in life, and it behooves us to remember how we feel when we are on the receiving end, so we are sensitive in how we give it over to others.