What bothers me more about shadchanim such as salsa described (and btw, I meant to say welcome, salsa) is when they act as though they are SO committed to helping you (and since most of them are being paid, they should remind themselves that this is not just a favor they are doing for someone, and even WERE, they should still act with kindness and thoughtfulness) and then let you flap in the wind without another contact of ANY kind, even just to say,” haven’t had a chance to follow through yet.”In my experience, too many people consider themselves shadchanim, when they have no business (pun definitely intended) being involved in the process. I know a shadchan who actually SPOILED the shidduch by interfering too much with the young couple who just needed more time to assess their feelings. Because the boy was being pushed, he called it off after a dozen dates.
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