Teenager–thanks for the clarification. I see what you mean about the tznius not being the problem at hand. I would like to reiterate though, if there is somehow a way to get a woman in your life who you can trust, and build a relationship with face to face, it would be quite healing. It is so brave of you to find the strength you have to get back on track, and build, and what I find especially touching is the way you understand the pain of other teens and how they need someone in their life to understand them.
It is a great mitzva to inspire others to help those who need it and you are doing just that right here by giving us the insight you have, and asking us to be sensitive to someone who might come our way.
Keep striving for what it is that will give you the strength to grow and realize your amazing self worth.