Dating and marriage have a lot to do with your own feelings, and nobody will ever be able to help you those elements. Any good adviser will tell you that.
But there are times when you just don’t know –
“Is this problem going to affect a marriage?”
“Does it matter that this bothers me?”
“Does this normally change?”
“Did I judge properly?”
I feel bad for the people who boldly trust themselves on these types of decisions. I’ve been badly burnt by trusting advice Rabbonim have given me, but I still go back the same people for advice. Nobody could have done better, and I would be worse off by trusting myself.
The truth is, in this business, it’s very clear that there is a strong Yad Hashem in everything that happens and everyone needs a sort of Hashgacha to get anywhere. So it would pay to try to follow Daas Torah and Halacha in every step…