very often it’s the people with a head on their shoulders who date more till they get married.
au contraire. the smart ones (in the right way) get married quicker, usually. meaning they aren’t miss picky (the cause of the so-called great shidduch crisis.)
Both statements are absolutely ridiculous.
I married the first guy I dated, but we dated for 1.5 years before getting engaged (and I thought that was a little fast for me). I knew at 20 that I was not ready to get married yet. I wasn’t shidduch dating so this wasn’t an issue.
Sometimes, people start dating well before they are ready and they need a maturation process through the first 10 guys they date. Sometimes, they are just set up with the wrong people. And sometimes, its the first guy they meet that is perfect.
Take this piece of advice: marriage succeeds when both parties want it to succeed AND are willing to put in the work. When choosing the person to marry, you need to make sure that you both have the same goals, have personalities that mesh and that you are attracted to. Do not date expecting the other person to change – take them as they are and decide if you are willing to put in the hard work. Marriage is worth the work with the right person.