Reply To: Achdus Versus Sholom Bayis

BS”D

Most importantly, though, if something connected to a rov whom you follow happened and you said something seemingly out of line regarding that rov, I would understand it. And if you said it in private it would be none of my business, any more than a supposedly questionable performance at a controversial time by a particular singer at a private Purim party was my business.

This is the double edged sword of the Internet; private should not always be made public.

If something your rov predicted came true and you spoke about that in a way that was meant to convince everyone that the derech of your rov is the truest mehalech, I would accept it as legitimate even if I disagree because my hashkafah and practices are very different. I would in fact expect you to believe that your derech is the truest one – for you – and I would expect you to want to speak about it and teach to others but would hope you would do it in a non-threatening and non-demeaning way (the opposite of which is a problem across the board especially when kiruv is involved). At the same time I would expect you to accept the fact that I am happy as I am and just may not have the inclination to listen to other hashkafas for reasons that could just as soon include time constraints or being so steeped in my own derech that peronally I can’t relate to much else anymore even as I respect the legitimacy of the other 69 ponim laTorah.