Sigh.
All I can say is that every time I come across shidduch threads such as this, I give many thanks to the Ribbono Shel Olam that I met my bashert on my own.
I didn’t have to deal with the “rules” over which party is supposed to say “yes” first, what has to be worn on which date, where we have to go on a particular number date, what things “pasul” a potential shidduch, the extensive detective work to determine if her summer camp counselor was acceptable, etc. We met, both knew within a few weeks that we were for each other and that was that.
If it works for you, great — but there is no way that this would have worked for me — and I thank HKBH for sparing me all of it.
The Wolf