The Wolf,
I agree, the shidduch system is not for me. I have an issue with the “he has this defect, she has this defect, perfect match” concept. Think its not true? My deaf sister was redt to someone who is blind. Sure, he was a great guy, but talk about communication problems! My sister married a wonderful hearing guy and they are happily married BH. Her friend’s mother set them up. Ultimately it worked, but the journey was a little crazy.
I don’t mind the rules of dating so much – it gives people a way to prepare. Imagine being anxious about the date AND the process. It works for many people to have strict rules to follow. [Not for me though!]