teen: If your mom gave you a pair of gloves when it was bitter cold outside, and just to prove your independence, you said “no, thanks, I don’t want them”. Then- you go out and your hands become numb, red, stiff etc. and you start really wanting those gloves. Your mother didn’t make your hands get numb & stiff. She did not punish you to show you that you really need those gloves… Just by not accepting her offer, you were the one that suffered in the end.
To start proving that we are the chosen people and ARE royalty… to start showing you why and how the Torah is all goodness…. it would take a few books and then some.
You are asking extremely deep, yet in a way very surface, fundamental questions.