SJS, about your mother’s education,I don’t know how old your mother is. But I do know American-born women of my mother’s and aunts’ generation, we’re talking early 70s, who didn’t have a BY education, or an abbreviated Jewish education, and yes, they have more yiras shamayim in their little fingers than all their fancy female descendants combined.
But that was then, this is now. It’s pikuach nefesh for our girls to keep them in a strong Jewish environment. Just read Wendy Shalit’s books to see what they’re up against.
I’ll daven for you, you daven for me – may you have the physical and spiritual resources to raise your children to bring nachas to you, klal Yisrael and HKB”H and build a bayis neeman b’Yisrael.