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I would never have married a guy who smoked. It seems to me that smoking indicates a reckless attitude, that the person has no respect for his own life, let alone his family’s lives, or the lives of anyone else in the world. I heard recently that third-hand smoke is just as dangerous as second-hand. For those who don’t know, third-hand smoke is inhaling the smoke and particles that have landed on the smoker’s clothes, etc. even after the cigarette is finished. I know someone who worked in a morgue, and he said that he could always tell when the corpse he was dealing with had been a smoker during their life – the lungs looked like the inside of a vacuum cleaner. The type of guy that I wanted to marry when I was in shidduchim was the type who did care about himself and his family, and who took more than his personal pleasure into account before doing the things he did.
Anyway, BH the man I married does not smoke, and because people in his family did/do smoke, he is so turned off smoking that he can’t even think of picking up a cigarette.