Daniel: What about ?? ???????? If in shul, where people are concentrating on Tfilloh, you are not allowed to change from the ????? (i.e. say ????? before/after ???? ???? where the ???? of that ??? is the opposite), then that should teach us “to do in Rome like the Romans do”. Just to make myself clear: I’m not saying that there is a ??? of?? ??????? on the bus. I’m saying that with that ??? we are taught not to do different than ???? ?????. That is pure ??? ???.
In Apeldoorn you can sit next to your wife without any worry.