I heard a statistic that 85% of today’s divorces are preventable. It’s just a question of people not willing to make it work.
I’m not quite sure how you quanitify this number, but its not surprising. One example: a girl I know got married at 19 and had two kids very quickly. After the second one was about 6 months, her husband came home and said he just wasnt ready for all this responsibility and wanted out. Someone like that should not have been pressured to get married at a young age (he was 20-21 when they got married).
You need a few elements to make a good marriage:
1) A committment from BOTH parties to make it work
2) Generally, mutual large scale goals
3) Compatibility
4) A willingness to compromise (basically, giving up your own selfishness)
5) A willingness to struggle through hard times
Love makes it easier to deal with 1-5 but is not necessary to make a good marriage. Plenty of people love each other but have terrible marriages. Many times people have no idea how much work marriage is and run at the first sign of trouble.
Perhaps someone can enlighten me, but what was offensive about “I B”H have been married now for a nice time”?