Phyllis, I also found The Big One’e point illuminating. Maybe we can learn a thing or two from the Chasidim.
Jothar, “soulmate”!? That sounds straight from that radio ad. “B’cholkoseihem”. A Yiddishe marriage should NOT be about soul mating. Building a Bayis Neemen B’Yisroel has nothing to do with a soulmate. This is where too many of us have gone wrong. THAT is why we have the divorce crisis.
We need to stop thinking like goyim and start acting like Yidden, and half our problems would probably be resolved.