To Azolis: define “good guy.” Can a guy be a good guy if he’s out of a full time yeshiva framework?
The girls may be waiting for one normal good guy, but that guy had better be in learning full time. I have no problem with a girl wanting that, BTW, but I maintain that a LOT of the problems are in full time learner gene pool.
I don’t think we should encourage these huge egos by agitating for a solution that will only feed their egos. The girls will be better and more and more qualified, the boys will be increasingly infantilized, and frankly, the 22 year old girls who are defrosting just may not find the sechora substantial enough. Believe me, I am tremendously machshiv Torah, and it will be my great joy to see my sons within the daled amos shel Torah for as long as possible, but I feel that it’s not enough to raise our sons by the clarion call of “I am boy, see me learn.” We’re not giving them time to work as counselors, permission to go on SEED programs, or even start their own summer landscaping business. What is differentiating one boy from the next?
Again, my apologies to all for following the tangent, not the main post.