chaverim- who decided that I lost the argument on halachic grounds? First of all, it is not my argument to lose, there are many bigger people than me who espoused the same view. Secondly, the ‘consensus” in the coffee room doesn’t make it the truth.
to gavra at work- I’ll bring you the quotes from the rambam and the shulchan aruch- on the particular needs of geirim and i will quote to you some interesting teshuvos of recent vintage that may surprise you. I daresay that many of the ‘coffee room” participants will not accept these arguments but it dosn’t mean that they are erroneous. give me a day or two.