Some people are simply angry at the world, and some are better able to manage their emotional response to the curveballs life throws at us. I have a close friend who is so angry at everyone and everything, that saying Good Shabbos to her is an adventure. You NEVER know how she will respond to that. She will not get therapy for her anger because she has “no problem. Everyone else is a moron.” yes, there are people like that. Frumladygit, I doubt that you want your family and friends to think of you this way. Everyone has tzoros of one type or another. There are things you can change and there are things you cannot. The problem is that too many pseudo therapists and Dr. Feelgoods have convinced people to let their anger out, and validate (there’s the word I love to hate) their feelings. I have a news flash for many people – life is sometimes, and maybe even ALL the time, a big challenge. Bad things happen, bad people hurt us. But GOOD things happen also, and loving, caring people come into our lives, and if we are so filled with anger that all we can see is the dark stuff in front of us, then we cannot possibly focus on all the good that is around us at the same time. And that also means we are not being Makir Tov to Hashem, and that is the biggest chisaron of being an angry person. It is marchik us from Hashem.
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