“oomis: it’s unfortunate that you are resorting to attacking me”
I did no such thing. The opposite, however, has been true quite often on this thread, and there was no reason for it. I do not attack, although I might point out that something that is said is offensive to me. I have that right, and instead of getting upset, maybe you should re-read your own words, as it is very clear who the “anonymous” rabbis and family members are (that was actually a response to Joseph). This thread has been very civil for the last couple of days, so can we keep it that way? Accusing me of posting rumors, is almost the same as calling me a liar, btw, so who is insulting whom? I never said I cannot make a mistake (I make plenty), but this inyan was not one of them, because obviously there was never an issue of being mechallel yom tov in our family or in our neighborhood. And having asked an opinion of a rov (not my rov, so I did not ask for a p’sak), I was told that what I describe is completely muttar, though people generally do not do so today, and as I explained, it is more for maris ayin than any other reason, because most people have a differnet type of stove now.
BTW, “the poster” who is clearly myself, cannot tell you who the family rabbonim and members are, because that would identify me on this forum. So that, too, was an unnecessary remark. And I am not attacking you by saying that. And you still do not get the fact that the older stoves are NOT being extinguished (or perhaps you believe that this is kibui, even though the flame remains lit). The fire never goes out completely, and that is why it was always muttar.In East New York, there were no families in the shtiebel where we davened that did not cook the same way my family did, and my relatives in Boro Park did the same. Nowadays this does not hold true for most stoves. They ALL go out (except a few like mine). So they clearly are not muttar.
Do you always feel attacked when someone does not agree with you? I am still waiting to speak with my Rov, and I will clear this matter up then, and tell you what he says. As I said earlier, if I come to discover that I have been wrong all my life, I will have to make some changes, and I have NO problem with making those changes. But I do not think it will prove to be the case. My rov is a musmach of Torah Vadaas. Will what he says be acceptable to you and forestall any further comment? I run the risk of hearing, “I told you so,” from you, but I am prepared to hear the p’sak from my rov whether it supports my statement or yours. But if he supports my claim, will you please stop arguing with me about it? I really feel that especially going into the Nine Days, arguing is not a good thing. This whole inyan started with an innocent remark on my part, and it was turned into a cause celebre, and it should not have been.