“Please don’t lecture me on something you don’t anything about.”
I wasn’t, and I would not presume to do so. Your statements seemed very general and I did not notice a mention of the Sefardic community in the particular one which I happened to see. So if in any post you did specify the Sefardic community and I happened not to see it or pay attention to that – my bad. Sorry. As to minhag hamakom, it can only be followed when it does not contravene halacha. The issue is what exactly constitutes the actual (non-chumrah)halacha, and in that area, there are shades of gray in which not all people seem to be in agreement. I do not feel that because a woman doesn’t wear socks or does wear pants (I don’t care WHAT community she is in), that it automatically means that she does not follow other halachos properly. I am acquainted with my fair share of sefardic women in my community and its environs, and if anything, they are MORE makpid in certain halachos than are the comparable Ashkenazic women in the neighborhood. I don’t think it is ever a good idea to make generalizations about anyone. Just how I feel. I didn’t mean to sound like I was lecturing. I don’t like to be lectured to, either, so I understand your objection.