We need mashgichim to work with parents from high school on chanoch l’naar al pi darko.
You have boys who go to bais medrash, then, when the olam goes go to Eretz Yisrael, then come back (and heaven help us, people are recommending arbitrary time tables, not when the boys are ready and have really got the learning they need to get) to start shidduchim. At what point does anyone sit down with their boys and tell them what they should expect to have to do once they’re on their own, assess their kochos, and do what it takes to get them ready? Three years after they’re married? To paraphrase Rav Hirsch, more than three years too late.