Darchai Noam, and what about girls whose parents can’t afford a “dowery”? And what about these tough economic times when a parent may not be in a possition to keep giving as long as they thought they could?
If a boy wants to learn, he can learn even if he has to work. My father learns every day before work. My husband works 12 hours and still has a steady shiur. The roasted chicken isn’t floating into the window and onto the table of our idealistic youngsters. Boys have to know also that marrige isn’t only in-laws, parents and wife working so he could sit and learn.