BasYisroel2: I’m not sure that’s the reason (though it makes sense)
for isn’t this practice going on for a long time,
(maybe before this 3 girls to 1 boy ratio)
Are you saying throughout history boys have been getting more offers
than girls? could be, I’m not sure.
Anyhow BasYisroel2; about your comment “I know personally ..boy gives yes 2 girl, while girl checking boy, boy busy lookin in2 other girls so he has “backup””
I dont see whats wrong with that, He is not dating the other girl,
just looking into her (usually his mother) so if current girl says no
he doesn’t have to start the whole process over, & knows which ones are nogeah
& gives an answer to the Shadchan.
what if he was redt 2 girls at the same time & the second one was his Bashert,
now after waiting a week to get a No from Girl#1,(not looking into other)
meanwhile Girl#2 gets redt to someone else, he could technically lose
his bashert! Yes the Gemara & Halacha talks alot about “Shema Ykadmenu Achar!”
Translation, For, perhaps someone will beat him to it.