A twist to this discussion: is it menschlach for a shadchan to redt multiple names to the same boy/girl in the same conversation; causing the conversation to go like this:
Shadchan: I heard such good things about your son and had some shidduch ideas. Did you ever hear the names Sorah A, Rivka B or Rochel C?
Boy’s mom: never heard any of these names, tell me something about them
Shadchan: (goes on about Sora’s ma’los, parents, machatunim etc.)
Mom: ok, sounds nice. What about Rivka B
Shadchan: (insert Rivka’s “resume”)
Mom: so would you say Sorah is a louder girl? Rivka sounds more refined
Shadchan: Sorah is a more “outgoing” girl, she has a really great personality, very popular…
(Mom gets the picture- the comparison pronounces the loudness vs. the quietness of each girl)
Mom: and the third girl- Rochel?
Shadchan: (insert Rochel’s “resume”)
Mom: Rivka sounds more our type…
(Shadchan tries to persuade mom to look into the other girls as well, without success.)
If either of the 2 “rejected” girls had been redt individually, they would stand a greater chance.
Your thoughts please