Bain hasedorim
you mised my point why keep on giving boys thousands of names you just make more girls to wait around.the mother of the boys know that they have the upper hand so they will take years to look into all the girls.These people wouldn’t be so high and mighty if their sons didn’t have a thousand names.the point is to try and lessen the upper hand.You have to look at reality.Reality-easier for boys so why on earth do we make it even harder for girls and easier for boys .why are you offering three thousand girls to the mother of the boy.it should be a rule you can’t look in to more than a few at a time.It is disgusting that we have fallen so low that to get a date you have to be on some royal highnesses list.We girls should start having lists and we should start being picky then perhaps no boys would have an equal time in shidduchim as the girls!
you said “What the shaddchan is supposed to do, is instead of rolling down a list 1st,
is to ask what type of girl is your son looking for? Not too loud not too quiet?
then on his list should omit from metioning girls A & C & redt Girl B”
Yes you should omit.you said so yourself that the tachlis of dating is to get the right person in our case mention the right person.How in the world does redting a thousand girls serve that purpose?The only purpose it serves is to blow up boy’s and their mothers egos who all need to get off of their high trojan horses and face reality!A few girls doesn’t mean a thousand! why on earth do mother’s of boys harbor names?
I understanding redting a few but lists?! That should be banned! I am sorry if you disagree but as someone who is has made shidduchim I see only flaws in boys having a lists no good can come out of it.
You have to put yourself in someone else’s shoes! I am sure that you like the list after all your a boy who wouldn’t be happy if they had the whole world running after them!
Lists serve no purpose.Girls are just degradaded,humilated and dragged through the mud!
Maybe I should get a list of boys from all over and start rating them!