BasYisroel2: Where do you get “thousands” from? I doubt it’s much higher than ten or twenty.
You cannot lay all the blame on the boy side. I dated for a good few years, over 40 girls. I averaged less than 2 dates per girl and that includes all the dates I had with my wife. An overwhelming majority of the terminations were from the girl’s side.
Getting rid of the list, whether it’s on the boy side or girl side, will just make the whole process take longer. While person A (boy or girl) is seeing person B, they (or hopefully their parents/friends) can be researching other people. If there is no “list” on either side, you waste time researching between prospects. I think BOTH sides should have lists, to take advantage of this efficiency.
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