Original Post from a similar thread started by old maidle
Im not sure if others feel this way but ever since i entered the shidduch scene it has bothered me how the focus of sympathy, frustration, anxiety, etc is on the PARENTS!! I feel like people are so worried about the parents of kids on the market than the actual people going thru the nisayon themselves!! Why are my parents constantly the ones at need for support and guidance and sympathy while i stand at the side with a smile plastered to my face as if everything is just dandy? Why are my parents always the ones screaming at me how all my friends are married and im still single because of a whole list of problems with me they can come up with? How come they dont realize I am the one going thru it, with MY friends getting married and having kids etc, and that its MY pain more than thiers?? Why does everything have to be blamed on me? Why cant the time just not be right yet? Why do people always have to come up with reasons for people still being single? Is that just an easy way out? Are we big believers or just in denial?
Why cant people see their kids suffering instead of seeing it as their own pain? Its not always our fault- it hurts us too!