GAW: ” If those who have extra funds want to support their own children, let them do so, but I (and many others) don’t feel (and am not halachicly) Mechuyav to help them when they are not willing to help themselves. “
The bulk of the parent population of BYOBP, are hardworking individuals, not those whose “plan” is to rely on family members or govt. programs for support. Many people are jobless today, no matter how educated, qualified, or how hard they look for a job.